The Amazing Effects Premarital Counseling Can Have on Your Relationship

If you’re deeply in love and eager to start your new life as a married couple, you may wonder why you should consider premarital counseling. After all, you’ve found your soul mate and best friend. You’re committed.

Nevertheless, your relationship can be made stronger through premarital counseling. You’ll gain crucial insights into each other and build communication skills. It will help prepare you for future issues that may arise. Think of it as an investment in the health of your marriage and future together.

Improved Communication

One of the primary benefits that many couples (and counselors) find as a result of premarital counseling is improved communication skills. Communicating with each other usually seems easy in the beginning. Few conflicts come up, and if they do, we’re so in love that we can easily find a way around them.

But with time, persistent issues can lead to problems with communication. Small misunderstandings can lead to bigger ones.

Premarital counseling teaches you useful skills to share how you feel and what you’re trying to express. It also teaches you how to listen to your partner with patience. You’ll learn what kinds of questions to ask to clarify and reach a better understanding.

Planning Ahead

When you get married, you’re joining your life and future with that of someone else. So it makes sense to take the time to plan for the years ahead carefully. Premarital counseling can help you consider issues that may not even be on your radar.

You’ll get a chance to discuss each other’s thoughts about having children and getting along with in-laws. Financial perspectives and budgeting are also helpful topics to discuss before joining your bank accounts and credit history. When you feel so focused on each other in the here and now, thinking ahead to retirement plans and desires can seem unnecessary — but these are significant issues.

Deeper Understanding

The process of premarital counseling can help each of you understand each other better. You may learn things about your fiancé that you weren’t aware of. This knowledge will help you understand each other as you move forward in life. You may talk about things like each other’s love languages, personality factors, and family of origin issues.

At the same time, premarital counseling can also help you gain deeper insight into yourself. You may uncover new insight into how your parents shaped your communication style. Maybe you’ll discover why certain habits of your fiancé mean so much to you. In fact, improved self-knowledge is vital to maintaining a healthy relationship.

Protection Against Divorce

Mentioning the word divorce when you’re preparing for your wedding may seem uncomfortably inappropriate. Unfortunately, given the statistics, it is essential to figure out how you can protect your marriage from dissolving in the years ahead.

Premarital counseling is a constructive step in this process. As you work through some of the skills and topics listed above, you’ll figure out how to make your marriage strong. The insights you gain about yourself and each other can help you plan preventative techniques when things get tough. And premarital counseling helps you learn the skills you need to weather the tough times together.

Clear Expectations

Experienced marriage counselors offer a wealth of knowledge. They’ve worked with many premarital couples. They know what to look for when it comes to relationship health and weaknesses. You can put their expertise to work for your marriage.

A good counselor will be able to help you build clear expectations for what marriage is. They’ll guide you into a deeper focus for your relationship together. In the end, the effects of premarital counseling are well worth the time of a few sessions.

--

If you’re engaged and ready to prepare for your future together, please read more about couples counseling and reach out to my office to learn more.